Why Black men are dating out of their race?

We did a blog on "Why successful black women are dating out of their race?" I think its only right that I write one on "Why black men are dating out their race? Is there a definitive reason or just a cop out? Percentages of Black men and women dating outside their races have increased significantly over the last decade. 

Based on a small survey, Here are the Top 10 reasons why black men date outside their race 


1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women's tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man's struggle in white America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.  


Here are some other reasons why black men are dating out their race: a better support system, less attitude and drama, easy going, exotic look, and more pleasant .




Black women get a bad rap because they are fed up with the lack of respect, consideration, admiration, and love they deserve from Black men. I feel the media pays a big part to why black women are portrayed as hostile, angry, and bitter. This is not true for all black women.  


Some comments and thoughts


"My experiences with White women have been pleasant, however my most meaningful, passionate relationships have been with Black women. I truly love and admire them, and to some extent I understand what they have to go through on a daily basis." -David

"I think it is not true that White or Asian women are nicer than Black women," says Monisha N. Austin. "I think it has to do with the way the man treats a woman for a woman to react back at him- Mo ".       




There are good Black women and good White women and there are bitchy women of every race as well. Every woman should feel she is worth having a good man. I believe that most men, (Black, White, or other) want a good, strong woman who can add to their lives. As a woman, I believe every woman should strive to be a happy and independent person and then a good man will come into your life. -Tana  


"My friend told me he dates white girls because they give no hassle and that they are more practical for him".-Unknown


Perhaps the problem really boils down to the fact that we no longer listen to one another. Dialogue must take place to gain better understanding of the pain that resides on both sides of the gender fence. There is large ground to be covered in the restoring of our relationships with one another if we are to preserve our people. We as humans have every right to exercise our preferences; however, we should really begin to stop and think about "the browning of our nation," as interracial children are being born every day. We are already losing the race in different aspects of society. The least we can do is work harder at congregating in love as man and woman. We should ponder if love really conquers all; even when we are on the verge of becoming an endangered species. It is, however, harshly possible that we may never be able to come together in harmonious attempts to survive as a race.- Rajan