We all know these women – they settle for relationships where they’re being abused physically or verbally by men who don’t respect them or their feelings, yet they still choose to stay in the relationship.  Some of us may even admit that this woman was us at one point.  Today I’m led to share 10 reasons I believe women settle for less than God’s best for them in relationships.  Feel free to add your input as well.


In no particular order of importance (they’re ALL important)


1.  Fear that there’s no one better out there for them


2.  Fear that no one else would want them


3.  Lack of self-worth and self-love


4.  Lack of realizing how much God loves them and because of this they deserve to be treated like royalty.


5.  Driven by life’s desires (i.e. desire to be married by a certain age, have kids by a certain age) and if this doesn’t work out some women feel the may miss their opportunity to live their familial dreams


6.  Lack of knowing what true love should look like (i.e. lack of examples of godly, successful relationships or lack of internalizing 1 Corinthians 13:1-8 )


7.  Believing the LIE of the good man shortage, perpetuated by the media (how many video clips on the ‘single black woman’s struggle to find a man’ do we have to watch???)


8.  Poor self-confidence and poor self-esteem


9.  Fear of being alone


10.  Just plain ‘ole FEAR (fear of making the wrong decision, fear of never falling in love again, and on and on and on…)


But thanks be to GOD, for He has not given us a spirit of FEAR, but that of power, love, and a sound mind 
(2 Timothy 1:7) , so we bind fear today in Jesus’ Name!